Big houses do not always bring families closer. Many parents are realising that the more space children have, the less time they spend together. Developers are now rethinking how homes are built so that families can see each other, talk, and share daily life.
Sakina Hassanali, co-chief executive officer and creative director at Hass Consult, says one of the greatest challenges developers face today is designing homes that intentionally foster physical connections among family members.
She notes that families’ time together has been eroded by the increased use of gadgets, creating a mission among home designers to rethink spaces in ways that bring people back together. One approach has been to structure smaller bedrooms-especially for children-so that they are encouraged to spend more time in common areas rather than isolating themselves.
‘We are trying to fix this digital disconnection in society by effecting change within families through the designs we create in houses,’ Ms Hassanali explains. ‘We deliberately make children’s bedrooms smaller, even uncomfortably small, while enlarging and connecting the common areas. The kitchen, dining, and lounge flow into one another so that mum, dad, and the children can all be in one space. They may be doing different things, but there’s a sense of togetherness.’
Psychologists have praised this approach as ingenious, agreeing that intentional design can increase family interaction.
They argue that many parents have mistakenly equated giving children more private space with good parenting, when in reality it has sometimes undermined family bonds.
‘Millennial parents, in particular, are struggling with how they were raised. In trying to compensate, they give their children what they themselves lacked-including private space. But this often spoils the relationship and weakens interaction,’ says Collins Odhiambo, a parental coach and educator.
He points to house designs where children’s bedrooms are equipped with televisions and other amenities. ‘Once a
child enters the house-especially preteens and teenagers-there’s little interaction. They only come out to eat,
and, in some homes, even meals are left open-ended; you eat when you’re hungry,’ he observes.
Mr Odhiambo concurs that smaller bedrooms, which push children into shared spaces, are healthier for family life, but he stresses that parents must also take intentional steps to interact with their children. He advises placing children’s bedrooms close to the parents’ to encourage monitoring and spontaneous encounters. ‘That lack of space is actually an advantage to child development. It builds personality as siblings bump into each other, and it ensures unavoidable interaction between parents and children,’ he says.
In apartments, developers are extending this philosophy to entire communities, creating opportunities for residents to connect through activities such as running clubs, dance classes, poetry nights, health talks, and book clubs. ‘We are piloting a residence experience manager in one of our projects to organise weekly events,’ Ms Hassanali adds.
She admits the new design approach is not driven by market demand but by research and societal need. ‘Sometimes
you take feedback from the market, but other times, the market does not know what a better design looks like. This is
a proactive approach, and once buyers experience it, it quickly becomes the new standard,’ she says.
House construction, she emphasises, is capital-intensive and a source of pride, which makes it essential to balance comfort with designs that encourage family interaction. Mr Odhiambo agrees, noting that even those with large houses must be intentional about family time. Rules around shared meals and gadget use, he says, can go a long way in strengthening bonds.