I have been having a lot of feedback from the readers on this Intimacy column. I have sold copies of my book on great sex. I have also been having one-on-one discussions with quite a good number of people. From the various experiences, I have come to realise that information is a great key to enjoying a great sex life for couples. The more one is informed, the better the sexual performance.
As a matter of fact, that I am involved in sex information came out of my own personal experience with gathering information to improve my sexual satisfaction in my marriage.
The focus of this write-up is about reinforcing the need for married couples to be deliberate about sex information for maximum satisfaction. You need to get the right education if you will enjoy a great sex life. There is no shortcut about it. If you don’t get informed, you will be sexually deformed. To be sexually deformed means to seek sexual satisfaction outside marriage.
That is why cases of infidelity resulting in children from outside marriage have been on the increase lately. It’s a sad development that we have to grapple with in the marriage setting these days. How can one raise children whose biological fathers are concubines to their mothers? Or husbands having children outside the marriage? All these, in most cases, are resultant effects of poor marital sex, which can be better handled with adequate sex knowledge.
My husband and I are doing well sexually in our marriage today because we intentionally sought knowledge about sex.
My husband has been having masterclasses for husbands who want to enjoy great sex in marriage, and the results are mind-blowing. As someone from overseas wrote to him last week, he confessed that he is lasting longer in bed now after his masterclass sessions with him. Others have also confessed that the information they gather about sex has brought great improvement to their sex life.
I am therefore strongly recommending that married couples must engage in personal sex development. It will give them icing on the cake in the marriage.
Avenues for sex information
Books on sex
It’s indeed no longer a hidden fact that reading improves the quality of life in all areas, sex inclusive. So, let couples improve their reading habits on sex matters. There is no need to shy away from reading about sex.
You can hardly see people holding books on sex publicly, or seeing them standing at book stands to buy books on sex. This is discreetly done by a few who dare to take the bull by the horn. I have read a lot on sex to get to where I am today in matters of sex. I am still reading, and I won’t stop because it’s highly rewarding.
Attend couples seminars, conferences, and gatherings
You will get to hear something new about sex during such outings. Pay if you must, and never take such opportunities for granted.
Enrol for masterclasses on sex matters
My husband’s experience lately on this is an eye-opener to the benefits of this avenue. You are able to ask down-to-earth questions, which attract adequate answers. It can be a one-on-one thing, or with a group of friends. You are able to share your personal experiences and compare notes with others in the group.
The beauty of this is that you will discover that you are not alone in the situation you are worried about. No more suffering in silence. There is a solution to every issue in life. You only need to go to the right places to access the solutions.
Social media platforms on sex matters
Some social media platforms are available for down-to-earth discussions on sex matters. Married couples should avail themselves of the opportunity. It’s highly rewarding due to the variety of information available through them.
Personal counselling on sex
There is nothing wrong if one goes to an experienced counsellor on sex matters. As long as it’s for your marital success, it’s not bad at all. In advanced nations of the world, some are trained or are professional sex therapists for such purposes. It has also been discovered how invaluable their services are to the mental health and happiness of married couples. We must improve on this in our society as well.
If you have a desire to overcome any sexual challenge, please don’t joke with these avenues to get informed. You will be surprised as to how easily accessible such solutions are from the avenues.